How to Make it to Your 26th Anniversary
I don’t know what the magic in this dress design is, but everyone I know that has been married 20-30 years got married in this type of dress!
Find someone with a great relationship similar to what you’d like to have and spend time with them! Ask them what makes it work!
Brian and I believe that marriage is a covenant*: meaning that we would rather die than break our vows. There have been times that we drove each other so crazy that death started to seem like an attractive option…not even kidding…but we made it through and love each other a ton more because we survived those times together. That history together strengthens our bond like nothing else can.
And there were times when Brian and I both prayed for strength to endure!
Truthfully, we’ve never been good at praying together, because apppaaarently…someone is really long winded in her prayers and torturous to listen to! But we rock at praying for each other.
You never hear anyone say something completely idiotic followed by, “Of course, I’m open to considering what other people have to say about this belief and getting insights from people wiser than me.”
No! That crazy dude who thinks Bigfoot eats bacon with aliens is convinced that everyone who disagrees with him is part of some huge conspiracy to conceal the truth that he discovered while he was high one night.
Don’t be like that crazy high guy in your marriage. No one is always right! I promise that you are wrong in some of your beliefs and attitudes. If you aren’t willing to admit that, then you are probably a fool in some area of your life. Your friends and acquaintances can probably quickly identify the area too!
It’s super hard to swallow your pride and admit to your spouse that you might not be right about something (believe me! I HATE it.) but I swear it is worth it.
I love chatting about this. So feel free to contact me!
*There are religious people who abuse covenant language and use it to keep people in abusive relationships. I do not believe that was ever God’s intent! The covenant relationship is about two people committed to making the marriage work. Obviously, people shouldn’t put up with abuse and cheating is breaking the covenant.
I am a really strange mix of a hippie, Calypso, Southern Belle, Madea- wannabe, Christian with the attitude of a Rhode Islander! I’m fascinated with people’s stories, I love to laugh at life with people and I’m genuinely trying to follow Jesus’ teachings. Strangely, my search for truth often has me at odds with American Christians who believe themselves to be the guardians of this truth. I was kicked out of Sunday School as a child for asking too many questions. I learned to repress them but my questions never went away. Thankfully as an adult, I feel completely free to pursue answers. Turns out, God is pretty big and not nearly as upset with my questions as his followers tend to be!